To everyone who has or has had mental health touch their family, I feel your pain.
It’s killing us at the moment - never felt so helpless.
So sorry to hear this Scaf.It’s not me personally, well not yet anyway……
It’s someone very close to me. We are blessed to have lots of support and professional advice on tap - doesn’t make any easier to cope with though, if I could go through it for them I would.
Spent the evening researching support groups, reminding me that we are not the only ones, he se the post.
The offers of a friendly ear or two is much appreciated.
I understand having lived with someone with mental health issues for many years.To everyone who has or has had mental health touch their family, I feel your pain.
It’s killing us at the moment - never felt so helpless.
And therein lies one of the problems. Very often people who are used to fixing things, try to “fix” the mental health problems of others using the skills they have learned throughout life that worked well in other situations. Unfortunately, they are unlikely to with mental health problems, as you appear to already know. Indeed, it is very often the last thing the person suffering needs, and tends to reinforce the feeling that nobody understands what they are going through and what they need. But as many have already said, with the right help and ongoing support, the situation can improve and often quite quickly. But like dependencies, the disposition is always there and needs careful ongoing management and support, usually with Cognitive Behavioural Therapy techniques learned during the recovery process. I wish you and the individual suffering all the very best. I also would be happy to share my experience if helpful.This really is a special place, your offers of support and sharing your experiences openly here or via PM does help and is much appreciated.
I spent my career fixing / addressing problems so when faced with this, somehow feel it’s my responsibility to to fix it or even that it was my fault in the first place, I know deep down neither of those things are true and i know I have to be careful not to make myself ill trying.
We have faced something similar as a family before and came through, so we can do so again, it’s just so difficult to see the ones you love and hold so dear suffer in this way.
As I said in my original post, to all those who lives are touched by mental illness in any of its many forms, I feel your pain and am here for you too.