Mental health

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Its ALWAYS good to talk mate.
But only to somebody qualified and highly recommended.
If I can do anything to point you in the right direction,
please don't hesitate to PM me. I've many years experience
on both sides as it were and if I can do anything to help I will.
DON'T hesitate to get in touch if you need to ;)
 

Scaf

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It’s not me personally, well not yet anyway……
It’s someone very close to me. We are blessed to have lots of support and professional advice on tap - doesn’t make any easier to cope with though, if I could go through it for them I would.
Spent the evening researching support groups, reminding me that we are not the only ones, he se the post.
The offers of a friendly ear or two is much appreciated.
 
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Completely understand. Been in your shoes and its a giant sh*t sandwich, when its
someone near and dear.
Very glad to hear that you have supports on tap and that you've got details of support
groups. If you ever want to use me as a sounding board for anything, PM me and if you want,
I'll send you my number.
 

ScaldedCat

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It’s not me personally, well not yet anyway……
It’s someone very close to me. We are blessed to have lots of support and professional advice on tap - doesn’t make any easier to cope with though, if I could go through it for them I would.
Spent the evening researching support groups, reminding me that we are not the only ones, he se the post.
The offers of a friendly ear or two is much appreciated.
So sorry to hear this Scaf.
It surely must be one of the most difficult things to know just how you help someone suffering like this, especially when you have no experience with it. Wishing you all the best.
 

Simon1963

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Sorry to hear of that Scaf. It’s an illness that touches more people than you might think. I’ve suffered in the past on many occasions and you can end up in a very dark place indeed. Mrs1963 has also suffered as has my daughter. We tend to be able to read the early signs in one another and manage to pull ourselves out of the depression in the early stages. I hope you find the support that is needed and I wish whoever the person is my sympathy and hope their soon on the road to better times.
 

Mr.Cambio

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Sorry to hear that. Be sure that time heals everything and what now looks like a mountain to climb, it will sooner or later be over.
 

Zep

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So sorry to hear about your problems Sam. This is, as you say, not uncommon but can be incredibly frustrating to watch and experience.

The hardest part for those suffering is to ask for help, so if it is in the open and being worked on this is a good thing.

Always happy to lend an ear, or any help I can.
 

Scaf

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This really is a special place, your offers of support and sharing your experiences openly here or via PM does help and is much appreciated.

I spent my career fixing / addressing problems so when faced with this, somehow feel it’s my responsibility to to fix it or even that it was my fault in the first place, I know deep down neither of those things are true and i know I have to be careful not to make myself ill trying.

We have faced something similar as a family before and came through, so we can do so again, it’s just so difficult to see the ones you love and hold so dear suffer in this way.

As I said in my original post, to all those who lives are touched by mental illness in any of its many forms, I feel your pain and am here for you too.
 

Rwc13

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This really is a special place, your offers of support and sharing your experiences openly here or via PM does help and is much appreciated.

I spent my career fixing / addressing problems so when faced with this, somehow feel it’s my responsibility to to fix it or even that it was my fault in the first place, I know deep down neither of those things are true and i know I have to be careful not to make myself ill trying.

We have faced something similar as a family before and came through, so we can do so again, it’s just so difficult to see the ones you love and hold so dear suffer in this way.

As I said in my original post, to all those who lives are touched by mental illness in any of its many forms, I feel your pain and am here for you too.
And therein lies one of the problems. Very often people who are used to fixing things, try to “fix” the mental health problems of others using the skills they have learned throughout life that worked well in other situations. Unfortunately, they are unlikely to with mental health problems, as you appear to already know. Indeed, it is very often the last thing the person suffering needs, and tends to reinforce the feeling that nobody understands what they are going through and what they need. But as many have already said, with the right help and ongoing support, the situation can improve and often quite quickly. But like dependencies, the disposition is always there and needs careful ongoing management and support, usually with Cognitive Behavioural Therapy techniques learned during the recovery process. I wish you and the individual suffering all the very best. I also would be happy to share my experience if helpful.
 

Wanderer

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Mate of mine suffered badly with mental health all his adult life, sectioned 3 ties, twice by himself. Called me up one day and said could I help him, he'd just tried to kill himself by sitting on the tracks of the West Coast Main Line, first train passed him cos he sat on the wrong line, second time shortly after he couldn't go through with it and rolled off the track before the train hit him.

I invited him down to mine and we had a good talk, good laugh but he was taken by my foreign mrs (well partner) and he then decided to emulate me.

That was years ago, he found a Romanian lass, married her, never looked back, no suicidal thoughts, no longer bi-polar, totally happy.

So it can turn around but I think it was his own actions that did it in the end, with a bit of mate intervention...