I think we need to hold fire on a definitive course of action at this stage. It is too early to tell if any longer term injuries have been sustained or will arise. I just don't have that information at this stage to say if this is likely to be the case or not. It doesn't seem so at the moment but it would be prudent to leave our options open at this stage. It would also be all too easy to say OK she is fine, recovering well and find in a year or longer a significant/major issue discovered that causes long term issues and costs that could be substantial. It seems sensible to do this and seems irresponsible not to do so.
It could be financial suicide or ruinous if for whatever reason this became the case. I have no idea, just keen not to close doors that will not be able to be opened again at a later date. I hope and feel that this won't be the case but why close a door that either can't be closed at this stage or doesn't need to be closed at this stage.
There are some issues that clearly need and will be discussed. I do not like litigation and more specifically solicitors. Sorry if I am offending anyone here but my experiences at all stages of my life have never been good when taking any form of litigation using solicitors. It always ends up costing loads with little or no result. Lose lose for us/everyone else and win win for the solicitor. It is not high on my agenda list but is an option if ever required.
We have another follow up appt with a Harley Street Maxillofacial specialist again next week. The swelling should start to go down and the injuries can be easier and more fully assessed. I am keen not to jump to conclusions too earlier, keen not to be negative and blame anyone or everyone else and keen to protect my daughter regardless what anyone or everyone thinks about it. Your opinions and information really does matter and is appreciated.
I am in an industry where information is key to allow us to do our job and do it well. The more information I have the better and more informed decision I can make. I apply this logic in most that I do. Some might say boring, tedious, annoying, live a little etc. but I cannot change the way I was born and brought. I am quite a strong individual who cannot be swayed easily and pride myself on not being able to be 'bought'. I don't go against the grain on occasion just to be different but have no issue in doing anything that will be in a minority or unpopular if I feel it is the right thing to do.
I don't think it is good to react in the heat of the moment or make decisions when your judgement is clouded and imbalanced. That is what the last few days have been about for me. The ultimate and most responsible person at fault here is myself. I know this and am fully aware of this fact. I will not beat myself up about it or let it affect me and know how to deal with it. I have lived with myself for 43 years and know myself quite well know
I was not happy with something and choose not to do something about it immediately.
In my defence I was in a very foreign environment, know nothing or very little about horses or horse riding and didn't want to come across as interfering or a moaner without good reason. I really didn't know what was right or what was to be expected with the assistance level in the lesson. I have no benchmark or level at all to gauge this either in person or by written/read knowledge. All I know is that I felt uncomfortable and felt it didn't seem correct to me. Is that or was that good enough reason to cut in and get the lesson stopped for my daughter? I still have no idea! The lesson is 30 mins long and the incident happened about 20 mins in. There were 4 horses and girls in the class with one central teacher. It was my first visit to see my daughter riding and my sum total of life long experience is therefore about 30 mins. I am not sure that is enough to make a good solid informed decision. It was merely a gut feeling and would have been reactive. Sometimes this makes the best decision and sometimes the worse. I have to live with my decision and am man enough and responsible enough to do so.
I moan a great deal at home about all sorts. I often am told so and told I never smile. There a many bits of information that fill my head on all that I deal with every day. I am not one that seems to be allowed to have simple decision based on one or two pieces of information. My heads seems to become attracted and burdened with a ton of information fully, partly or with a small amount direct relation to what I am trying to think and decide about. It is all in the desire to make the very best decision at all times on everything. As you all know choosing cars is one of those complex tasks that takes some time. Others may be quick, reactive and make snap decisions. I am not one of those people! I can do this when the information I have is clear and find decision making very easy. I do it a great deal in my work. In this case I really wasn't sure what to make of it all and was still trying to gauge if I was being irrational and overbearing. I am still human, always learning but always prepared to do the work required to do the very best I can at all times. No matter what it is.
Nobody will agree about this in their totality as we know everyone is different. My concern is to make sure that if there any lessons to be learnt here, that they are, also if anything that is preventable is prevented.
