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Vampyrebat

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I have been a member of the sportsmaserati.com for 5 years now. Over this duration I have made many friends, met many of you at events, my knowledge for the brand has gone through the roof (still learning) have offered advice, bought items, sold items. Over this duration I have never been offend and never got into a heated discussion with any members. If a topic doesn't interest me then I don't get involved!! It's that simple!!
I joined for the cars but chose to stay for the great banter and camaraderie.
There are one or two that have pushed the boundaries (not for me but I have seen others offend)
Why not have a traffic light system, or three strikes and your out! I think we would still keep the humour but it will make people think twice about what they post in future..... Just an idea??!!
 

Scaf

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I have started doing exactly the same thing - slightly embarrassed on the train on more than one occasion - I did go back and look later though ;)
 
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MarkMas

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I like an edgy joke, or a picture of something nice to look at, as much as anyone, but I do think that there is a risk of putting off people who are uncomfortable with some of what goes on in the forum. So I think some of the 'laddish' (or is it 'schoolboy') stuff - some of pictures, avatars and jokes - probably are going a bit too far and may have put people off - but I have no data on this. It seems to me that if it is occurring, then it is bad for the forum (to lose members) and bad generally (to upset people unnecessarily). Maybe the way to research this is for the Mods to contact people who joined the forum some time ago, but who are no longer active - those are the people who may have felt uncomfortable.

Having said all that, I don't think we are doing too badly. Arguments are mostly civilised (with the SM Brexit discussion being the least 'Godwin-ish' of any that I have seen). The imagery seems to be mostly appreciative rather than prurient, although undoubtedly 'laddish' and not-PC. But I must admit that I have winced at occasional very graphic 'humorous' remarks that might be better in a PM, closed group or a pub.

.....‘Political correctness gone too far’ is simply an excuse for people to defend being ignorant and refusing to move with the times. See also ‘I remember when it was ok to say’ or ‘in my day’ or ‘boys will be boys’ etc. Times change......

As a posh elderly Tory, I am surprised to find myself becoming slightly more 'woke' in my dotage, significantly influenced by my sons and their girlfriends and some interesting reading. 'PC gone mad' does seem to be used as an excuse for the 'dominant / privileged' members of our society both to give themselves permission to be rude / oppressive to others, and to claim their own kind of 'victim-hood'. Various relatives of mine complain that they are no longer 'allowed' to say this or that due to 'PC' when actually, they are actually saying those things at the time, and are doing so from the comfort of their mortgage-paid suburban homes, not the discomfort of someone struggling because of their race/colour/creed/orientation, etc. While I do see why some white cis heterosexual western men do feel a bit angry about being marginalised or even silenced by some of the public discourse, that is nothing compared to the marginalisation that the people at the other end of the power imbalance experience.
 

Davidc

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Something to consider is the demographics of the average SM member. I don’t have the stats but it doesn’t take a brain surgeon to work out the majority of members are probably 50 plus white middle class males and therefore what they (we) find acceptable is not the same as others that fall outside that description. Therefore, if the forum wants to appeal to a wider audience then it may wish to think about more moderation of some of the more politically incorrect entries but this may have the effect of alienating some existing members. You will never keep everybody happy all of the time. Personally, I’m happy as things are although I do tend to avoid the ‘red top’ posts.
 

Saigon

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I completely disagree. It’s not about ‘PC’ going too far, it’s about people not taking responsibility for their actions. No one should be subjected to any for of abuse or otherwise due to something that is completely out of their control. That means race, gender, disability etc. Allowing jokes and comments that play to stereotypes simply creates a toxic environment that isn’t welcoming to others. It degrades and potentially singles out people based on who they are, and it’s wrong. It’s something you can do with your mates in the pub because you know them, and you can judge how they react, and you can see the emotions they are giving. Online it’s virtually impossible to know if your offending someone, they may never even post, and to push to the victim to point out when you’ve gone too far as the default position is completely wrong.

‘Political correctness gone too far’ is simply an excuse for people to defend being ignorant and refusing to move with the times. See also ‘I remember when it was ok to say’ or ‘in my day’ or ‘boys will be boys’ etc. Times change.

You specifically being from a minority that is often picked on and also being thick skinned doesn’t give you the right to decide for others either.
We are talking about people from all walks of life, you don’t know their experiences. They may be bullied all through their lives, mental health issues, perhaps even close to suicide and just looking to escape the a-holes who treat them like second class citizens, or animals. They’re car enthusiasts who want to escape it all and instead of escaping they find themselves right back in it, jokes at their expenses.
It’s pathetic and people should feel ashamed of themselves for it in my opinion, and if they are willing to partake, they should also be willing to be called out on it. There are plenty of ways to laugh without resorting to diminishing people by race, culture, sex etc.

All that being said, I’m pragmatic and simply skip over the bits of SM that I don’t like, but then as a British late 30s white male, I’m not exactly the butt of any degrading, though I think I’m also more progressive / liberal etc than the majority on here, as has been evident in a few off topic threads.
There isn’t that much that’s all that bad on here.
Female form stuff is the obvious offender, given the make up of the majority on here. There is a difference however between discussing women you admired / were attracted to in the past, and posting suggestive comments about what you’d like to do to them, just as there is a line between pictures of good looking people and nudity.
The other 90% of the Internet has the second bit pretty well (un)covered if that’s what you’re after.

My opinions aside, the suggestions in the first post certainly seem like a well thought out list of and very worthy of a try. I presume the aim is to not completely alienate new members of the community before they’ve even arrived!

The reality is that these mechanisms are to try to limit, restrict or possibly just hide the need for a real cultural shift that many aren’t willing to make.
I think it’s great that Conaero is having a go though. Kudos to you as is clear to see the differing opinions around here ;)
I have to be honest here, sometimes I do feel that in some instances political correctness has gone too far. But that does not make me ignorant, nor am I offended by your assertion above, that it does. That is just your opinion, which you are most definitely entitled to.
 

Felonious Crud

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Personally speaking, I think it would be a shame to marginalise humour to a darker corner of the forum. It's what a lot of us come here for and the more clicks you put between someone and their destination, the less likely they'll be to arrive. My point is, I could see us losing members or decreasing traffic. Plus a lot of people come for the cars and stay for the wit, social side and the banter. And I means banter in the proper sense, not as a word which seeks to normalise being offensive.

Whilst (like many of us) I'm hardly a minority (I'm boring as all ****, frankly) so its hard to always spot if something is offensive, I think overall the forum's pretty good. Some things make me cringe, so I ignore them. As was noted above, what we might say over a pint is not the same as we should type into a public forum. We must moderate ourselves on here the same as we probably do at work, or in a public place. It's just good sense and decency, nothing more.

Does the forum software have a button that can be clicked to flag a post as offensive? Maybe any that get more than three strikes can get pulled. Not sure - there's an overhead to all this and I doubt Matt and the mods want to spend their lives as the SM equivalent of the BBFC or the ASA, reviewing everything that gets reported as inappropriate.
 

CatmanV2

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Something to consider is the demographics of the average SM member. I don’t have the stats but it doesn’t take a brain surgeon to work out the majority of members are probably 50 plus

Oi! Less of the 50 plus, please! Until August at least ;)

Whilst (like many of us) I'm hardly a minority (I'm boring as all ****, frankly) so its hard to always spot if something is offensive, I think overall the forum's pretty good.

Just like to lob in here that although you may be as boring as **** in real life, on here your posts almost always hit the mark, causing humour without (to the best of my observation) offence. And I've been the mark in many of them, and happy to continue!

C
 

Felonious Crud

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Oi! Less of the 50 plus, please! Until August at least ;)

Hear, hear!

Just like to lob in here that although you may be as boring as **** in real life, on here your posts almost always hit the mark, causing humour without (to the best of my observation) offence. And I've been the mark in many of them, and happy to continue!

C

Thank you very much.

Apart from the tacit acceptance that I may be as boring as **** in real life. :)
 

Oneball

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Does the forum software have a button that can be clicked to flag a post as offensive? Maybe any that get more than three strikes can get pulled. Not sure - there's an overhead to all this and I doubt Matt and the mods want to spend their lives as the SM equivalent of the BBFC or the ASA, reviewing everything that gets reported as inappropriate.


The Crud Button could be a good idea as it would also let the poster know he may have said something out of place without realising, learning is often about making mistakes.
 

CatmanV2

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The Crud Button could be a good idea as it would also let the poster know he may have said something out of place without realising, learning is often about making mistakes.

The Home Automation forum has this. I was struggling to see the point but now it makes some sense. I'm in favour.

C

PS But only if it's labelled 'Crud' :lol2:
 

BennyD

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Personally speaking, I think it would be a shame to marginalise humour to a darker corner of the forum. It's what a lot of us come here for and the more clicks you put between someone and their destination, the less likely they'll be to arrive. My point is, I could see us losing members or decreasing traffic. Plus a lot of people come for the cars and stay for the wit, social side and the banter. And I means banter in the proper sense, not as a word which seeks to normalise being offensive.

Whilst (like many of us) I'm hardly a minority (I'm boring as all ****, frankly) so its hard to always spot if something is offensive, I think overall the forum's pretty good. Some things make me cringe, so I ignore them. As was noted above, what we might say over a pint is not the same as we should type into a public forum. We must moderate ourselves on here the same as we probably do at work, or in a public place. It's just good sense and decency, nothing more.

Does the forum software have a button that can be clicked to flag a post as offensive? Maybe any that get more than three strikes can get pulled. Not sure - there's an overhead to all this and I doubt Matt and the mods want to spend their lives as the SM equivalent of the BBFC or the ASA, reviewing everything that gets reported as inappropriate.

Wow, just wow! It’s a good job most on here don’t really know you! :D:D
 

keith

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I completely disagree. It’s not about ‘PC’ going too far, it’s about people not taking responsibility for their actions. No one should be subjected to any for of abuse or otherwise due to something that is completely out of their control. That means race, gender, disability etc. Allowing jokes and comments that play to stereotypes simply creates a toxic environment that isn’t welcoming to others. It degrades and potentially singles out people based on who they are, and it’s wrong. It’s something you can do with your mates in the pub because you know them, and you can judge how they react, and you can see the emotions they are giving. Online it’s virtually impossible to know if your offending someone, they may never even post, and to push to the victim to point out when you’ve gone too far as the default position is completely wrong.

‘Political correctness gone too far’ is simply an excuse for people to defend being ignorant and refusing to move with the times. See also ‘I remember when it was ok to say’ or ‘in my day’ or ‘boys will be boys’ etc. Times change.

You specifically being from a minority that is often picked on and also being thick skinned doesn’t give you the right to decide for others either.
We are talking about people from all walks of life, you don’t know their experiences. They may be bullied all through their lives, mental health issues, perhaps even close to suicide and just looking to escape the a-holes who treat them like second class citizens, or animals. They’re car enthusiasts who want to escape it all and instead of escaping they find themselves right back in it, jokes at their expenses.
It’s pathetic and people should feel ashamed of themselves for it in my opinion, and if they are willing to partake, they should also be willing to be called out on it. There are plenty of ways to laugh without resorting to diminishing people by race, culture, sex etc.

All that being said, I’m pragmatic and simply skip over the bits of SM that I don’t like, but then as a British late 30s white male, I’m not exactly the butt of any degrading, though I think I’m also more progressive / liberal etc than the majority on here, as has been evident in a few off topic threads.
There isn’t that much that’s all that bad on here.
Female form stuff is the obvious offender, given the make up of the majority on here. There is a difference however between discussing women you admired / were attracted to in the past, and posting suggestive comments about what you’d like to do to them, just as there is a line between pictures of good looking people and nudity.
The other 90% of the Internet has the second bit pretty well (un)covered if that’s what you’re after.

My opinions aside, the suggestions in the first post certainly seem like a well thought out list of and very worthy of a try. I presume the aim is to not completely alienate new members of the community before they’ve even arrived!

The reality is that these mechanisms are to try to limit, restrict or possibly just hide the need for a real cultural shift that many aren’t willing to make.
I think it’s great that Conaero is having a go though. Kudos to you as is clear to see the differing opinions around here ;)

To adapt an expression from a film director...calm down dear it's only an opinion!
To be more serious, you make the point that I am from a minority. It's to that end that I can speak with albeit a little more authority, as you say it's not something you have been on the receiving end of.
I can tell you it's easy to spot the difference between a true racist and somebody joking. Many a comedian over the years has used race as form of humour, but I can say with a fair degree of certainty they are not genuinely racist - Warren Mitchel (Jewish) as Alf Garnet was considered by many to be a great comedian, even though his character was clearly racist. There are many more who berate themselves and their own religion for the purposes of humour. I don't notice society vilifying Jackie Mason, who from orthodox Jewish family has made an enormously successful career joking about the very same Jewish people.
The world will be a much poorer and sadder place if we lose our sense of humour, and think a hundred times if what we say might cause offence to the myriad for potential areas of offence. ..
By the way, as a member of the British Goffer Society I take great exception at a picture of these species bring exploited in this way.....Goffers have feelings too you know!
I hope and trust you can accept my opinion without any unnecessary aggressive reply.
 
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Wanderer

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To adapt an expression from a film director...calm down dear it's only an opinion!
To be more serious, you make the point that I am from a minority. It's to that end that I can speak with albeit a little more authority, as you say it's not something you have been on the receiving end of.
I can tell you it's easy to spot the difference between a true racist and somebody joking. Many a comedian over the years has used race as form of humour, but I can say with a fair degree of certainty they are not genuinely racist - Warren Mitchel (Jewish) as Alf Garnet was considered by many to be a great comedian, even though his character was clearly racist. There are many more who berate themselves and their own religion for the purposes of humour. I don't notice society vilifying Jackie Mason, who from orthodox Jewish family has made an enormously successful career joking about the very same Jewish people.
The world will be a much poorer and sadder place if we lose our sense of humour, and think a hundred times if what we say might cause offence to the myriad for potential areas of offence. ..
By the way, as a member of the British Goffer Society I take great exception at a picture of these species used in this way.....
I hope and trust you can accept my opinion without any unnecessary aggressive reply.
I maintain from what I've heard from people that Bernard Manning wasn't racist, was his act, that's it and I believe it to be true, so I concur.

But that plus the 70's in retrospect has labelled him.