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daverichardson said:
Well now, I agree completely with the last few posts about Private Care Homes.
Consider this though how our society has changed.
When I was young all my family lived either with us or in the next house or street round the corner. As one aged there were plenty of family members to look after them and visit them etc.
My two sons live away (London and Leeds) and they will not be around to look after me so what will I do?
Well we get packed off now to a Care Home where it is someones JOB to look after me, am I really going to get good care?
I looked at several homes for my late wife and they were awful for a variety of reasons and all were expensive. In the end I did not use a care home at all.
So all this sanctimonious BS about our elderly in homes now being a scandal is hypocritical. We put them there relinquishing all responsibility and ownership then complain when it goes awry.
The elderly are a massive problem that needs sorting. I don't have all the answers but I do know what we all are doing now is not good enough or right.
No offence meant to anyone on here, just frustrated
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I think you are oversimplfying the situation; I agree that many folk who end up in care homes could be looked after by family members, if the will was there to do so but there are others ( like my Mum) who had advanced Alzheimer's, which drove a set of behaviours (including violence, sexual and hydropbobic behaviours ) which made it impossible to care for her at home, especially with young children around. So no you cant apply the same rationale to everyone in this situation.
 
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Afraid not
I cared for my wife for 15 years who went straight into full blown dementia.
I am no superman and made mistakes, but if I can do it so can others in the last year we took assistance fro SS (Social Services) who were useless. So it does not wash with me.
Just my personal experience and no offence intended
 
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daverichardson said:
Afraid not
I cared for my wife for 15 years who went straight into full blown dementia.
I am no superman and made mistakes, but if I can do it so can others in the last year we took assistance fro SS (Social Services) who were useless. So it does not wash with me.
Just my personal experience and no offence intended
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I'm very sorry to here that. One thing for sure it is a horrific desiese, especially when you see it take hold of your loved ones. It's absolutely awful.
I think my point about caring was really around circumstances. In my case with young kids around it was impossible to manage the situation for the reasons I outlined.
 
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philw696 said:
All you lot going out to B&Q ;)
news.sky.com

Coronavirus: Estimated speed of coronavirus infections rises over past week

Scientists have said the UK reproduction number for COVID-19 is now between 0.7 and 1, up from 0.5 to 0.9 last week.
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I am smelling a lot of BS here.
1/ From today's government briefing............ R takes 2-3 weeks to process. Apparently it's already going up again.
2/ Lockdown was only done from two days ago. Wednesday THIS week. Two **** days ago.
3/ Government doesn't really want people out partying this weekend so spread fear today, Friday to keep everyone in fear and stay home.
Mother effers are effing with us. This is a method of keeping everyone in "stay home" mode.
Question, who thinks BBC etc are in Governments pocket and put up whatever news/straplines that government wants.
Someone tell me I'm wrong?
 
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Silvercat said:
I think you are oversimplfying the situation; I agree that many folk who end up in care homes could be looked after by family members, if the will was there to do so but there are others ( like my Mum) who had advanced Alzheimer's, which drove a set of behaviours (including violence, sexual and hydropbobic behaviours ) which made it impossible to care for her at home, especially with young children around. So no you cant apply the same rationale to everyone in this situation.
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But, you do agree it DOES apply in some cases. Some people just plain don't want the hassle of old relatives. It's OK, you can say it.
 
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“The infection rate in the UK has gone up and is close to the point where the virus starts spreading rapidly, government scientific advice says.”

From the BBC website. For fukks sake. I think i will write a virus to bring down the internet. The shite that is being published to enforce paronia is beyond belief.
 
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daverichardson said:
Well now, I agree completely with the last few posts about Private Care Homes.
Consider this though how our society has changed.
When I was young all my family lived either with us or in the next house or street round the corner. As one aged there were plenty of family members to look after them and visit them etc.
My two sons live away (London and Leeds) and they will not be around to look after me so what will I do?
Well we get packed off now to a Care Home where it is someones JOB to look after me, am I really going to get good care?
I looked at several homes for my late wife and they were awful for a variety of reasons and all were expensive. In the end I did not use a care home at all.
So all this sanctimonious BS about our elderly in homes now being a scandal is hypocritical. We put them there relinquishing all responsibility and ownership then complain when it goes awry.
The elderly are a massive problem that needs sorting. I don't have all the answers but I do know what we all are doing now is not good enough or right.
No offence meant to anyone on here, just frustrated
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Not all circumstances are the same but I massively agree with the sentiment. We had my wife's nan at her parents house until she passed at 101. Not only could we all look out for her but she had a fall life and saw great grandkids every day. I cant see me putting my grandparents in a home and will do all I can if that ever is the case. We're a close family and very lucky but not everyone is that fortunate.
 
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philw696 said:
All you lot going out to B&Q ;)
news.sky.com

Coronavirus: Estimated speed of coronavirus infections rises over past week

Scientists have said the UK reproduction number for COVID-19 is now between 0.7 and 1, up from 0.5 to 0.9 last week.
news.sky.com news.sky.com
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Totally misleading BS again , for the last week the government advisors admitted they didn't know the exact extent of the R number , except to say it was between 0.5 and 0.9 , they seemed to me they were being honest , so all of a sudden this article seems to know we are up one to 0.7 , head shaking moment
 
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Phil the Brit said:
I am smelling a lot of BS here.
1/ From today's government briefing............ R takes 2-3 weeks to process. Apparently it's already going up again.
2/ Lockdown was only done from two days ago. Wednesday THIS week. Two **** days ago.
3/ Government doesn't really want people out partying this weekend so spread fear today, Friday to keep everyone in fear and stay home.
Mother effers are effing with us. This is a method of keeping everyone in "stay home" mode.
Question, who thinks BBC etc are in Governments pocket and put up whatever news/straplines that government wants.
Someone tell me I'm wrong?
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And to top it all UKG has in their wisdom decided not to extend the £3.2m they are giving to councils to help keep the homeless off the streets, yet they are giving £600m to the care sector. How does that work then?!:mad:
 
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