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MrPea

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Froddy, thoughts and prayers are with you.

The 'likes' on my earlier post are the most notifications I've had on the forum in one go when logging in - it's little things that show the support on this forum. We're so much more than just fellow car enthusiasts.
Everyone has ups and downs. Some more than others and some more of one than the other. Places like this mean that all of those things matter to each other to be 'in it together' as much as possible. It's great being able to stand by and be stood by for both the good times and the rough times.

One way I'd like to show you all my support for you is to tell you to watch the following video with the sound up loud. Thank me later:
 

Froddy

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Froddy, thoughts and prayers are with you.

The 'likes' on my earlier post are the most notifications I've had on the forum in one go when logging in - it's little things that show the support on this forum. We're so much more than just fellow car enthusiasts.
Everyone has ups and downs. Some more than others and some more of one than the other. Places like this mean that all of those things matter to each other to be 'in it together' as much as possible. It's great being able to stand by and be stood by for both the good times and the rough times.

One way I'd like to show you all my support for you is to tell you to watch the following video with the sound up loud. Thank me later:
Thanks you so much! What kind words, and so thoughtful. So grateful - you’ve picked a video from one of my heroes (Alain de Cadenet) which has really cheered me up. Really touched. ...
 

Froddy

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Well in the interests of not being left out, and using that adage about 'a problem shared'...
I have been out of work for over eighteen months, and whilst my job loss is clearly not Covid related, the pandemic certainly isn't making finding work any easier. Thank G-d my wife is still working (from home), but even her firm is facing a round of redundancies thanks to the deterioration of world commerce. So we are hoping she will not be one of those, but that sword of Damocles is hanging over our heads to provide extra anxiety.
Finally my elderly mother (91), had to be admitted to hospital last week, thankfully not for Covid, but of course due to the restrictions she can have no visitors, causing her already slightly confused mental state to deteriorate further.
I obviously realise these problems pale into insignificance compared to many others who are far worse off, but I suppose you can only know and deal with what is going on in your own life.
Still on a brighter note, no car issues!!! :D
My thoughts are with you, Keith - I fully understand how awful it must be for you ...
 
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keith

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My thoughts are with you, Keith - I fully understand how awful it must be for you ...

My deepest condolences on your loss. Speaking from my current experience, not being able to visit the person in hospital, just adds another layer to the misery that the current situation brings.
Many thanks for your kind words, and as we say to someone who has suffered a bereavement in my religion... I wish you long life.
 

MrPea

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My deepest condolences on your loss. Speaking from my current experience, not being able to visit the person in hospital, just adds another layer to the misery that the current situation brings.
Many thanks for your kind words, and as we say to someone who has suffered a bereavement in my religion... I wish you long life.
Just out of interest as I genuinely can't guess, which religion? (I have no intention of hijacking a thread onto religion... don't worry!)
 

keith

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Just out of interest as I genuinely can't guess, which religion? (I have no intention of hijacking a thread onto religion... don't worry!)

No problem. I refer to Judaism. When your Jewish, at the funeral and at the prayers that usually follow in the evening for anything up to a week at a family members home; its customary when giving your condolences to members of the bereaved family to say 'I wish you long life' .
 
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Ok - I’ll join In... And my last three months have been tough.

I think, in general, I’m a fairly resilient person, and I have a good sense, and self-awareness, of where I’m upto in terms of mental health.

However, the combination of worrying about looking after all my team, and the isolation caused by CoVID, has really challenged me, and I‘ve ended up taking two weeks off work to make sure I didn‘t implode...

Right now I’m feeling ok-ish, but I’d still love this COVID nonsense to be done with.

You captured my greatest stress: taking care of the team. With no travel, business development is at a standstill, and as contracts are due to expire with no transition path identified to continue the work, i see dark times ahead. COVID or not, it’s the leaders responsibility, and that... that is what keeps me up at night.
Stoicism study is helping me cope a bit, but it’s still a Sword of Damocles.


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GeoffCapes

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I'll add my 2 penneth to this thread.

Work wise, believe it or not the lockdown was actually quite good for me, the dip in energy prices meant that I re-procured most of my clients energy for extended periods, this means my income is guaranteed for the next 3-4 years.
I also spent most of lockdown looking for other avenues of income as the majority of our clients are schools and hotels which as we know were shut.
So we have now got involved in large scale solar projects and as we have a number of financial houses to find projects for this has taken up a lot of my time.
We currently have about 15 projects which we are involved in. The largest is worth almost $300m (sadly not my share).
But if that comes off I'll be set for life!

Health wise me Alex and Joseph have already had Covid so we're not too concerned. However my dad has mixed dementia and the lock down has sped up his condition so much.
He has had mixed dementia for almost 3 years. The first 2 years you would only notice a gradual deterioration. Now as he had a lack of social interaction during the lockdown with not being able to go out, his condition has worsened, much quicker than we would ever have imagined. I try to get to see him at least once a month and every month he is noticeably worse than the previous month.
This is obviously taking it's toll on my mum as she is now pretty much a full time carer for him.

The other downside for us is the fact that we are living in a crappy rental which we hate, as we are waiting for our new house to be built.
It's too small, has damp, the oil boiler smells, as does the tank in the tiny garden so you don't want to spend any time there at all. But we've had to.

As the new build wouldn't be ready until April 2021 now (when we should have moved in in June this year), we decided to look elsewhere, and have found the perfect family house for us, in Hythe, a few miles from where we are now. Regardless of the house, it has a large garage and you can get 4 cars on the driveway, so I'm happy!
And hopefully we will move in next month!

The long and the short of my rather long post is that the lockdown and covid has been very draining on us as a family, stress levels are very high (as with others), but it has focussed us on what is most important in life.
The ones you love. Family and friends.

It's going to go on for a while yet so make sure you have family and friends to hand as I'm sure we'll all need them over the next few weeks/months/years.
 

MarkMas

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While I recognise and sympathise with the troubles and suffering of others, for me the whole COVID thing has been pretty benign (once I stopped looking at the "Are you worried" thread!).

I have mostly been working from home for years, so no big change there. I'm getting somewhat used to also having Mrs MarkMas at home all the time - she used to be away about 10 days a month, which was, frankly, rather more restful for an introvert like me! (Yes, I am that most dangerous of creatures, a socially-adept introvert.)

My (part-time) recruitment work has been a little slow, but is just now suddenly super-busy (this is not an economic indicator, as my volume is so low that workload levels are random). The annual conference that I run just squeaked in before lockdown at the end of February, and I now need to decide by October how to handle a probably hybrid event next February - that is a bit stressful, and risky, but interesting too. My two sons (in their 20s) are in work and getting paid (as are their girlfriends) - one son is delighted to be WFH, the other a bit frustrated as he started a new role just before lockdown and has been mostly unable to get going properly. Literally nobody I know has been really ill, although many (including me) wonder if the cough they had sometime in December-April was the 'Big CV' . It has been a bit frustrating missing out on holidays and nice lunches etc. But then again, I have saved a fortune on fuel and bills.

Current data says that if you live fairly quietly, you have about a 1 in 2,000 chance of meeting someone with CV, then a 1 in 10 chance of getting it from them, and then a 1 in 100 chance of being seriously ill (or dead), so I'm not personally feeling very threatened.

BUT, my father is 91, and my sister (in her 60s) has lung problems, so I have been a bit concerned about them. But this concern is easing as the situation improves, and I am taking my father out to lunch this week (at his insistence), but not my more vulnerable sister.

I'm also not too worried about economic melt-down. I feel that we are experiencing a recession of demand and activity, not confidence (1929) or structure (2008), and I am optimistic about a significant demand-led rebound as we start to both actually mitigate and psychologically get used to the threat of the virus. My younger son who is supposed to understand these things, tells me that there is, after all, a 'magic money tree', so long as Rishi makes sure to give it to poor spenders not rich hoarders. The house that my family is trying to sell is getting lots of viewings at the moment.

I do understand that others have suffered a lot, mentally, personally, work-wise, etc (including, paradoxically, both unemployment and over-work), and my sister reminds me of her considerable and justified anxiety. But for me it has been, embarrassingly, pretty much ok, with my stress levels ranging from around 3-8 out of 100. I sometimes wonder if I should be more worried - for myself or sympathetically. But I'm not.
 

MarkMas

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Thanks for starting this thread, Lozzer. Sorry to hear of the situation aiding more down than up. Yeah, I guess several of you here know that I tend to get more quiet on the forum the more things are tough. I ended up leaving my job to escape massive stress and mental illhealth just as covid struck and have consequently been out of work for nearly 5 months. .....

I work in recruitment and am happy to offer help to anyone out of work and looking. My niche is VERY specialist, so I'm unlikely to have any actual jobs going, but I can offer general help with CVs and strategies, and encouraging words. Anyone can send me a message if they like...
 

MarkMas

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....Been having some discussions on the very topic with Mrs C who seems determined that life is **** despite us (and our families) both being fit and well and currently having more money in the bank than we ever had before. Oh well. It'll be alright in the end....

Mrs MarkMas is an anxious (although high-flying) person, and has been finding the whole thing very stressful. At the start, we compared stress levels and I reported 3 out of 100 and she reported 94 out of 100. I think my base level is 2/100, although it did once reach about 80 during a nasty (civil) court-case. Her base level is about 80/100. A friend once said "Imagine you are on a lovely beach, and there are dolphins...." and she gasped "Oh, no!!! Do we have to try to get the dolphins back into the water somehow?!?!"

As lockdown got started, I told her that my level of concern had risen from the original 3 to about 6 (out of 100), and she yelled "Oh, my GOD!!! It has DOUBLED!!!!

She keeps saying "I can't believe that all this is happening!!!" and I tend to respond "All what?" I ask her if she means the water and food shortages, the mass suicides, the rioting, the martial law, the bodies lying in the streets, etc, but that doesn't seem to calm her.
 

Dman666

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Ok - I’ll join In... And my last three months have been tough.

I think, in general, I’m a fairly resilient person, and I have a good sense, and self-awareness, of where I’m upto in terms of mental health.

However, the combination of worrying about looking after all my team, and the isolation caused by CoVID, has really challenged me, and I‘ve ended up taking two weeks off work to make sure I didn‘t implode...

Right now I’m feeling ok-ish, but I’d still love this COVID nonsense to be done with.
Pretty much the same here ...
 

Dman666

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It’s certainly been challenging as had to close my cafe for a long period due to my health risk and it was totally unfair to expect my staff to be left at risk.

Now partially open again and starting to get some customers back but I think this will be a long road to recovery to how the business was before.

But in all honesty I have very little to complain about as I. Sure there are many people struggling very badly,mentally,finacaly and with personal loss,so onwards and upwards.